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Emotional intelligence is often the characteristic that people over-rate themselves on most. It involves four components:
Every body is composed of an IQ, EQ, and Personality (imagine a venn-diagram). While historical researchers believed that IQ was the indicating factor of a person’s success, an array of modern research has in fact proven otherwise. Research conducted at a top business school show that 90% of high performers are also high in EQ while only 20% of low performers are high in EQ. People with high EQs have also been found to earn more money - an average of $29,000 more per year than people with low EQ. The direct link averages out to $1,300 for every additional point of EQ. Studies have also been performed on Fortune 500 CEOs and found that while high IQ managers tend to rise to CEO positions, it is the high EQ CEOs that stay more than 2-3 years in that chief position as opposed to lower EQ CEOs that resign in a few years.
Unlike Personality and IQ, EQ is a skill and not a genetic, hard-coded attribute. However, EQ shouldn’t be improved to earn more money or rise to a higher level of power (well, I suppose you can if that’s your intention). Emotional control and well-being should be practiced for the happiness of your own life and those around you. The one piece of information that the book really pointed out to me was your mood is not only yours, but an influence to those around you - you have to be aware that everyone’s experiences is tied to each others so learn to have your outlook and emotions bring a positive influence to those around you rather than a negative one. After all, your stories are connected at one point or another so make the most of your overlapping time and don’t later regret actions and relationships that could have been better managed.
I need a creative outlet. Haven’t painted in a month, haven’t written in over 2 months, and haven’t danced in a long time.
Goal: Find and stick to a hobby.
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Chinese Proverb
Been thinking about growth, passion, and teams a lot lately. To be involved and feel ownership of something is much more empowering than being shown or told what to do. Even if you are not involved, make it so, and make yourself matter a little more.
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Somewhere with contrast - new and old, bold and soft.
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Somewhere warm and cold at the same time.
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Somewhere busy, packed, and clustered.
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Somewhere serene, something peaceful.
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In the mood for travel - something new, somewhere unexplored
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Today, the following thoughts occurred:
1. When subconsciously wanting to impress a group of individuals, we tend to conform our own behaviors to that of members in the group. For example, what may not have been so bad is suddenly “awful” because everyone else is voicing their opinion of the “worst experience ever.”
2. This is silly. It’s time to stop caring so much about what others think.
3. But wait - is that just naive? Or am I actually being brave?
4. It is necessary to care sometimes about what others think. For example, at work, if people are giving you feedback or hints toward your lackluster performance, you need to step up and be receptive toward their opinions. Yes, they are only opinions, but being open towards what different people may think will be much more effective than remaining prideful and closed off from potentially improving yourself. Same with some social behaviors that may offend others - stereotyping, pre-judgement, racism, offensive remarks, etc. - feedback will only help you rather than hurt you.
5. Your personality, that’s a different matter. The types of jokes you make, the way you react to certain comments, your food preferences, your hobby preferences, etc. - that’s a personal choice. You have the privilege to be whoever you are, whomever you want to become - so why are we scared to reveal ourselves? Why not just be a first rate version of ourselves rather than a second rate version of those around you?
6. It’s time to stop over-thinking so much. It’s also time to let go and just be. I care about start ups, ideas, innovations, food, experiences, and travel and those are things I should never suppress in order to conform to my environment. I want to learn about other’s experiences and stories, but there is no need to conform to their way of thinking. Inquire, learn about yourself and others - but learning is never the same as adopting.
Side note - A quote I read yesterday: at work (for example), if someone dissed you for unqualified reasons and you do not stand up for yourself, you’ve just allowed yourself to be slapped in the face twice - once by them, and once by not believing in yourself. Don’t sell yourself short.
7. Ironically, it’s time to let go and care more at the same time. Feels like a new beginning.
